Book of This Month

In lew of my added section on some of my favorite books, I'm adding this just as something for those who would like a nice book that affirms them as females and can help explain, we of the deeper waters to men.

It's called Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul by John and Stasi Eldredge.
It is a Christian based book, but I think the beauty that it gives permission for women to unleash is astounding. This book literally changed the way I viewed myself in this whole realm of this world. It was like the best unlocking of the Truth of my soul that anyone has ever given me. I was set free...be...the wonderful and wondrously made individual that God set on this Earth. I became unashamed of my tears, of my fears and of my desires. But that is just me. This book is, after all, an interpretation of the Truth of the Holy Bible, it may not speak to you the way it did to me, but I dearly hope that it would and will.

Let me know if you've read this before, or if you have other books that lift your spirits!!

Re: Single, Saved and Sexin'

So, today I found a link to a very disturbing article about having sex AND being saved from one of my new favorite online magazines; So Divine Magazine. The link was actually on their Facebook site, but I'll provide the link here. The name of the article says enough, but the comments, and the article itself is what literally had me mad...and then sad.

Mad, because, once again, now I'm going to be placed in the same boat as this woman at some point, by some man who believes that evolution will eventually lead me to understand that my God of the Bible is obsolete. But more than that, because I know that I am going to get hated on by those who believe that this article actually sets women free...instead of binding her even further.

Sad, because, the Truth has once again been subverted. I can understand why, when looking at society, but the thing is, is that either a thing IS or is NOT the Truth. And even if we hate the way it is told to us or by whom it is told...the Truth is still the Truth. 

Chivalry is Dying Needlessly

This is yet another response to my cousin ABCiE...I'm getting tired of these by the way!!!!!!!! LOL. Not really though. She wrote this article and this article and this is my answer to both, because to me both go in the same realm.

I'd say that I am going to tread lightly...but I don't think I can logically do so, because the problem as I see it is an unintended response to women becoming more independent. You know the whole "I am woman Hear me Roar" sort of thing. I will NOT say that Feminism is the cause, because I think the word gets over used and is vastly misunderstood. But the Destiny's Child Independent Woman, IS the unintentional problem.

Musical Interlude

This guy is AMAZING and seeing as this is my blog...then I'll have a musical Interlude when I want to...enjoy!

Find more John Dreher songs at Myspace Music

Why You're Not Married Pt3

So here is my final part of this three part mini-series. And I think that it must be said that these are of course my own opinions based on the fact that for the last 25+ years I've been watching these very things keep women from getting what they believe they want or need most of all...a man/husband.

More Thoughts on Women being Liars...

As y'all know, I have been sort of interpreting the words of Tracy McMillan into more digestible dialogue...if you will. Along the way, though, I got into a conversation that has sort of got me worried FOR REAL about the state of relationships between Black women and Black men...in particular.

Reason's Why You're Not Married part Deux

While I have the time, I guess I should get onto the next two points that the "evil" Tracy McMillan. Like I said before, I agree with her, and I'm single...obviously, but I like the simplicity of the post and wish to expand upon it only for discussion and clarifycation sake.
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Reason's You're Not Married...Translated

So this is for my Cuz ABCiE, cause she so thought that this article was "Rubbish!!!!!!" and "Horrible!!!"...these are of course my nicer versions of the words she actually used LOL!!


The article was written by Tracy McMillan, a three time divorcee, if I'm not correct, or is it three times married...in any case, the day before Valentine's she puts out an article that details the reasons females -who want to be married- aren't. So let's look at a few...and let me be honest, I agree with what she said whole heartedly...you don't have to... LOL ;-).

Married Folk acting like Single Folk...Really???

So, this past weekend I had the opportunity to spend some time with a friend who I only know through her family. We were raised in a rather similar fashion, but she was a few years younger than me.

In any case, I got the chance to meet a couple of her friends and we all decided to go out to a local club for some dancing.

It was cold as all get out, but my first impressions of the ladies all dressed up, were positive and classy, meaning, no one was trying to walk around in barely there ensembles. And considering the group of ladies I was with, I assumed that there would be plenty of dancing and not a lot of foolishness...I hate foolishness.

The Bad Type of Groupie...

Yeah I said it,

The word that I have been known to kill relationships over...Groupie. It's not normally within the common set of words that I use, but on occasion, like today, I see the merits of pulling out of the purgatory that I've sent it to in order to explain a few things to a few peeps who seem not to understand.

First and foremost, is, that just because you get hired by a team, pro or college, does not mean that you are NOT a groupie.

Dummy Missions 'R' Us Part2

My take on Doug and Beauty and Stan

This is actually the second part of a two part series. If you haven’t read the first one go back to the previous post here…

Dummy Missions 'R' Us

So here’s the first part of a two part story Enjoy!!!!

My BFF was telling me a story this afternoon about some of her coworkers who managed to get into all sorts of trig equations with each other.

Who Is Worthy of Love?

I keep coming back to this topic, as if it is not fully resolved in my head, but since it is there, then I shall write on it.

Love and Beauty.

Missing the Signs

Yesterday I was reading comments on an article written about interracial dating and marriages and the question was asked why so few white men approach Black women. And one of the answers that was given was the fact that nobody likes rejection, and seeing as it is known that most Black women in America prefer Black men, and absolutely would not date a white man, then most white men don't even bother with the task.

This, of course got me to thinking, have I been guilty of giving off said signs? I mean I think I have a good mixture of friends, but have I been guilty of giving off said preference?...I answered no, but then wondered why I still felt guilty after reading the remark....

Because I have been guilty of sticking so strongly to the Platonic Female ethos that I allowed many signs to pass me by.

"I Don't Date Virgins....Part Deux"

Not too long ago....well maybe longer than that...I wrote a post on my personal thoughts about why I don't find it an insult when a man says "I don't date virgins", and now I've found a great article for anyone interested in the male POV on a closely related topic.