Underestimation

In my last post, I was very specific about my love for, but mistrust of professional athletes, particularly of the National Basketball Association, otherwise known as the NBA. And while I stand by my overall assertion for all of the reasons I stated before, I was presented, through comments, with a couple of ideas that I wanted to respond to.

To be more specific, the assertions that most men cheat, and that Pro Athletes only associate or date women who could be found in a Maxim Magazine.

Be Careful What You Wish For...

Over the past few weeks I've been watching the NBA Playoffs with various female friends, and one thing never seems to go out of style when watching these events, 1) Ooooo, He's cute, I wander if he's single? and 2) Oh, He is FINE!!! He can get it!!!

Needless to say, I'm not usually the speaker of either of these comments, and I wouldn't admit it even if I were. SMH.

Woo me with D-Fence :-)

So the other night went well.
I managed to find an outfit that didn't overexpose me, and that was trendy at the same time.

But, I must say the most fun that I had this past weekend was on Saturday, I got to help celebrate the conclusion of an educational journey of a good friend, and I got to watch the Celtics beat down the Orlando Magic.

It's Friday Night and....

It's Friday night, and there's no youth group meeting for me to be at, and there's no place I have to be early tomorrow morning, so I'm going to head out with my girls on the town.

Problem....this very Blog, the writing of it and everything, has convicted me to such a level that now I am wondering what I SHOULD wear as opposed to what I'd like to wear.

Cliff's Notes

The popular notion these days is, is that if you haven't had sex as a female, it's because you weren't deemed worthy,(pretty), enough to be propositioned or asked. Same with dating. If you're a guy and the same is true, it's because you're too chicken to pull the trigger....I do not concur with these stupidly simplified explanations.









I mean I have been hit on while jogging in my neighborhood, and I've been asked, "So, how much would you pay me to bring you pleasure?", while wearing an Aunt Jemima scarf tied around my head.

Needless to say, the opportunity was there, I was just too mortified by the lack of respect that I never even considered the word "yes" in either case.

And I think this is how I've remained a virgin for so long. I see disrespect where others see flirtation....oh well.

A guy, who I've just met, telling me that my butt is fat, thinking that he is giving me a compliment, might get a sidelong glance that says, "I am not adverse to my knee finding out if you're wearing a cup or not".

Let's be real here,at the time, which was not too long ago, I was already a bit gun shy because I didn't think that I'd enjoy sex, and for some dude to suggestively imply that that was all I was good for would piss me off!!

I know, I know, how could any guy know that I was THAT grossed out by the idea of me having sex?
Don't know, AND care(d) even less.

I don't know if you're an a-hole by looking at you, and you can't tell if I'm the anti-nympho by looking at me. LOL

In any case, this kept me crab and STD free throughout highschool and college, and I am happy for it!!!

No, I no longer can claim that I am grossed out anymore, but I do have an appreciation for the act that leaves it in an area that I am not willing to travel to unless I am married.

Does this mean I could end up dying as the VirginDoll....yep, and I'm ok with that :-)

Don't Settle!!!

I was watching Steve Ward and his cast of dysfunctional couples on VH1's Tough Love Couples, and a comment that a mother spoke, on the show, to her son struck me HARD!!

No man? No true success...

Today I was talking to my cousin, who is the American Black Chick in Europe, who is actually back in the States for a little bit.

As I talked with her, I realized that we both go through a lot of similar experiences with our families where it concerns men. She has just finished her Masters Degree while studying in London, and has also lived in France for the past three to six months, but what was the first question she got from her extended family who hadn't seen her in at least two years?....Well it wasn't "how was France?"or even "Congrats on your Masters!", or heck, "What do you plan to do now that you've finished Grad School?"

Not Quite Pointers...

I have been sort of guilt tripped into NOT writing anymore of my Pointers to being a Platonic Female...but that will only last so long. Let's be honest, I like passing on knowledge, and heaven knows that I know THAT subject the best :-)

Platitudes of the Platonic Female

Yesterday's question that I posed had a sad response that reminded me why I behave and believe as I do. And although I am trying to break myself of those bonds, I can't say that the bonds of being the ever Platonic Female has not had it's advantages in my life.

But as I am trying to be different, in order to grow, I was posed with a couple of scenarios of how I would respond with a guy I like, in order to see where my problems lay. Don't you know, my problem is the very thing I've been building up for as long as I can remember?

The Crazy Train

As I'm sitting here trying to figure out something to write about, because seriously, I've got zilch, all I can think about are my parents, who I just came back from visiting, and the fact that I would really like a relationship one day......

That, and the fact that I am GREAT at sabotage, so not likely!!! 

With Friends Like that…

A friend of mine recently told me of a radio caller, who told of her abusive relationship with a star player at her college.

The woman said that she had always been overweight and that the first time he punched her, he knocked a couple of her teeth out. When she went to her friends, they told her that she was lucky to even have him, and that what she was going through wasn’t new, they all got hit all of the time by their significant others…

Lockerroom Chatter

I had an intense conversation with a friend about my attitude where it concerned females and their attire.

Why intense?

Because it was pointed out to me that I tend to get snippy when those in my company get super flashy when we're going to be in the company of "eligible" bachelors.

Propositions "R" Us

A couple of months ago I went to Wet Willies with some friends. I had never gone before, so I actually thought we were going to a night club instead of a slushy bar/restaurant. This fact did matter since I put on quite an outfit for the occasion thinking that I was going to be dancing and such.

So, because I'm single, I want to steal YOUR man LOL!?!?!?!

Yeah......not really....

It's amazing what coupled off, insecure women will transfer onto confident single women.