Yesterday I was reading comments on an article written about interracial dating and marriages and the question was asked why so few white men approach Black women. And one of the answers that was given was the fact that nobody likes rejection, and seeing as it is known that most Black women in America prefer Black men, and absolutely would not date a white man, then most white men don't even bother with the task.
This, of course got me to thinking, have I been guilty of giving off said signs? I mean I think I have a good mixture of friends, but have I been guilty of giving off said preference?...I answered no, but then wondered why I still felt guilty after reading the remark....
Because I have been guilty of sticking so strongly to the Platonic Female ethos that I allowed many signs to pass me by.
Not too long ago....well maybe longer than that...I wrote a post on my personal thoughts about why I don't find it an insult when a man says "I don't date virgins", and now I've found a great article for anyone interested in the male POV on a closely related topic.
The past few days have been filled with more grief and sadness over the state of the people I call my own, more than any other time.And it all started when I went to a gossip site to find out more about a mixed high-school basketball player that I wrote about in my Post, "Happy New Year..". From there, my head has been spinning reading the comments of Black women and Black men tear each other to shreds over everything from looks, to dating preferences. I have even read blogs that while promoting the Black female in Interracial relationships, simultaneously puts down virtually every Black man at the same time.
I have spoken many a times about the fact that for some reason, guys like to discuss their grievances with the female sex with me. And while I don't quite understand my overall popularity, I am honored by this...and annoyed...jk :-).
One of the biggest issues I have confronted is the idea that all women are bounty hunters, gold diggers, swindlers, pick-pocketers, and in general no good thieves. This is especially true if the girl happens to come from nowhere, is really good looking and ends up with an extremely wealthy guy.