The Attack on Black Women

 I know I am late, but better late than never, right?...Anyway.

A week or so ago a scientist from Japan claimed to have evidence that Black women were deemed to be the most unattractive form of all people...not just womanhood, but ALL people, period. He claimed that the raised level of testosterone in Black women caused this, while the same raised level of testosterone in Black men made them more attractive.

And while I could attack him as a Scientist...the point is not whether or not he is or is not a scientist, nor is it whether or not he is right...the point is, is that he is.

Jazmine Sullivan speaks the TRUTH

"Fear"

I'm scared to try cause I'm scared to fail
I'm scared to die cause I'm scared of hell
I'm scared to kiss scared to hug
I'm scared of sex cause I'm scared to touch

I'm scared to look cause I'm scared to see
I'm scared of you cause I'm scared of me
I'm scared to fly cause I'm scared to crash
I'm scared to move on so I live in the past

I'm scared to fight cause I'm scared to bleed
I'm scared of love cause I'm scared he'll leave
I'm scared of drugs I'm scared to drink
I'm scared to swim cause I'm scared to sink

I'm scared to learn cause I'm scared of truth
Don't wanna gain weight cause I'm scared of food
I'm scared to think that the label dropped me
I'm scared to think of my album floppin

And that is just the first verse. 

I'd write about it, but I think the words she penned for her "Fearless" album, says it all. How many things do we ALL -NOT- do in order to -NOT- feel pain? 

I know that the first stanza implies that I am a virgin because of my fear of touch...but I've already explained that I am, so there's no need to go into that. Well....I'm not really scarred of touch, but I do not TRUST a great deal, and that which I do not trust, I do NOT want to Touch me...:-).

Just food for thought...I hope that you, whoever you may be, are not NOT doing things for the wrong reasons. Fear of an Almighty Being is one thing, fear of all of the above...is quite another.

Book of the Month: Wild at Heart

 

 This month's book is the companion to last month's book, Captivating. In fact it was actually written BEFORE Captivating, by John Eldredge. I do believe that this book is insightful and helpful for both sexes, just as the last one was and is. The biggest reason why it is helpful is because it is written with the heart to unearth the Truth of a man, not to control him. It does string together a bunch of should's and if only's to shame or degrade men, but instead goes to the heart of the damage done to men and fills it with God's gift of purpose and life. 

I can say this with a fact, that it has been a helpful resource to me as I have sought to understand my brothers and earthly father. It helped me to understand my role in a lot of the stories that have happened around me, and most importantly it helped me to forgive a lot of perceived wrongs where men were concerned.

To me, this is a book that can help women to understand the desires lurking behind the blank stares and guarded hearts of their beloved ones. It can help bring understanding to the innate differences in their sons and daughters. It can help to bring understanding to how a childhood wound to a boy can lead to deathly scars for women who may deal with the man. But more than that, it is a book of healing, and promise and hope.

Judging a Book by its First Page...

We are often told NOT to judge a book by it's cover, and completely understand the logic and sense of that. Both in literary works AND in people, but what if we judge them by their first page...? 

In any case, the hardest transition I made was going from books with pictures to books without the glorious representation of the written word. I can clearly remember thinking that nothing, NOTHING would be as exciting as my Berenstein Bear Books. To get us to start reading from the young adult sections, my Mom told us this sage advise, who her mother had told her at the same age,

Read the first page, if you can't get past that, then put the book down.