The Divide in the Black Community

I have to admit it.

The past few days have been filled with more grief and sadness over the state of the people I call my own, more than any other time.And it all started when I went to a gossip site to find out more about a mixed high-school basketball player that I wrote about in my Post, "Happy New Year..". From there, my head has been spinning reading the comments of Black women and Black men tear each other to shreds over everything from looks, to dating preferences. I have even read blogs that while promoting the Black female in Interracial relationships, simultaneously puts down virtually every Black man at the same time.

Pesky Battle of the Sexes

I have spoken many a times about the fact that for some reason, guys like to discuss their grievances with the female sex with me. And while I don't quite understand my overall popularity, I am honored by this...and annoyed...jk :-).

One of the biggest issues I have confronted is the idea that all women are bounty hunters, gold diggers, swindlers, pick-pocketers, and in general no good thieves. This is especially true if the girl happens to come from nowhere, is really good looking and ends up with an extremely wealthy guy.

To this I say hogwash.

Happy New YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...Where's the Love?

So it's a New Year and tons of things have changed...and then again nothing has changed.

The SEC is still number one in College Football....but instead of Alabama, Auburn is #1

The Braves made the Playoffs, and lost in the first round...but coming up...no Bobby Cox

The Celtics are great and Shaq is on a playoff contending team....again

And just like clockwork race is still a factor in so many areas of our lives; sports, movies and dating.....as in Black women are still bitter about Black men choosing to date outside their race.

"I don't date Virgins" ...... :-)

The age old wisdom says that if a girl sleeps around, she's a slut, but that if a guy does so, he's an accomplished bachelor.
Newer wisdom has said that a girl who sleeps around is still a slut, but now a guy who does likewise is a manwhore.
So do men really prefer women who are considered sluts over virgins?....If they are a manwhore, yes.

But there are decent men out there who don't act like Britney off of Glee, they simply prefer a woman with experience...is that so bad?

Beauty and the Church

It's crazy, but I've been doing a Bible Study with a friend about Beauty and its merits, and it amazes me at how little this topic is actually talked about in Christian literature, outside the Bible that is. It's like those in the Christian world would rather not look at Beauty as being important in this world, because it cannot be quantified.

Comments and Answers

I am very appreciative to anyone who reads the words that I write on here, and am enamored with those who actually take the time to share their thoughts with me. My last post actually had a response that got me to squirming in such a way that I felt that a one paragraph response would not suffice, so I decided to give it it's due by devoting an entire post to answering the questions asked by Valeriesworld.

Oprah and The 30 Year Old Virgin

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 I really want to throw up my hands at OPRAH, because seriously what she did today really PISSED me off!!!

 In case you missed the episode, it was entitled the 30 year old Virgin and she had two women who fit the mold and a sex therapist on to help them out....point of the show....if you're 30 or older and are a female...you SHOULD be having sex by now....and something is wrong with you for not doing it now.

Trust is a Funny Thing

You know, in my hubris and pride in myself over still maintaining my virginity, I failed to see some major flaws.

First of all, my fear of trusting another human being with my most innermost thoughts and dreams is probably the main reason why I am still the way I am.

Gone But Not Forgotten

I know that it has been a while since I've been on here...and I'd say that I'm sorry, but in reality I just couldn't figure out anything else to talk about.

But then I got a question that almost stopped me in my tracks, how did I end up this way? As in what did my parents do to get me to stay a virgin through high-school let alone college?

Love and Football

What exactly do girls who love sports do when they have been letdown by their heroes in Game 7's?
They ponder their own love lives, or lack thereof using sports analogies.

And this is exactly what happened tonight while talking on the phone.

I am one angry little witch...really!

So, my Celtics lose, and I refuse to watch Sports Center, or anything on ESPN for like two days following the lose because my feelings are soooo hurt!! But I'm ok with the lose once I realize that the starting lineup from 2008 have still never lost a series...so I'm ok.

But, don't ya know, some non-basketball knowing men gotta open their mouths and piss me off.

Congrats Grads!

Yesterday at church, my pastor spoke to the recent grads about remaining upstanding citizens amidst the trash that they will face in college, grad school, and in the work place.

It got me to thinking about the supposed temptations of college that I managed to sidestep while there. The parties, alcohol, drugs, and of course sex. I mean I went to parties...when forced, and I drank, after I turned 21, and the rest I left for those who felt that they were equipped and ready for it.

"You can pray for peace... I'm gonna train for war."


"Why do I do it... Because if everyone expected the other guy to volunteer nobody would do it. For those before us so their service, lost friends, lost love, lost limbs and lives are not in vain. to ensure our very way of life... this privileged life lived by so few is preserved for those to come and those who I will call my brother when it's their turn to carry the torch and burden.

Soooo, what does that have to do with your love life????

I tend to write about sports on here, and I was going to write about my favorite subject of late, the NBA Finals, and how Kobe CHOKED last night, when my friend reminded me that this blog was supposed to be about my love life...or lack thereof.

Love and NBasketballA

So the NBA is looking for bloggers for their website, and someone thought I would be a great addition to their staff of "on the free" writers...I don't think so, though.