The Bad Type of Groupie...

Yeah I said it,

The word that I have been known to kill relationships over...Groupie. It's not normally within the common set of words that I use, but on occasion, like today, I see the merits of pulling out of the purgatory that I've sent it to in order to explain a few things to a few peeps who seem not to understand.

First and foremost, is, that just because you get hired by a team, pro or college, does not mean that you are NOT a groupie.

Dummy Missions 'R' Us Part2

My take on Doug and Beauty and Stan

This is actually the second part of a two part series. If you haven’t read the first one go back to the previous post here…

Dummy Missions 'R' Us

So here’s the first part of a two part story Enjoy!!!!

My BFF was telling me a story this afternoon about some of her coworkers who managed to get into all sorts of trig equations with each other.

Who Is Worthy of Love?

I keep coming back to this topic, as if it is not fully resolved in my head, but since it is there, then I shall write on it.

Love and Beauty.

Missing the Signs

Yesterday I was reading comments on an article written about interracial dating and marriages and the question was asked why so few white men approach Black women. And one of the answers that was given was the fact that nobody likes rejection, and seeing as it is known that most Black women in America prefer Black men, and absolutely would not date a white man, then most white men don't even bother with the task.

This, of course got me to thinking, have I been guilty of giving off said signs? I mean I think I have a good mixture of friends, but have I been guilty of giving off said preference?...I answered no, but then wondered why I still felt guilty after reading the remark....

Because I have been guilty of sticking so strongly to the Platonic Female ethos that I allowed many signs to pass me by.

"I Don't Date Virgins....Part Deux"

Not too long ago....well maybe longer than that...I wrote a post on my personal thoughts about why I don't find it an insult when a man says "I don't date virgins", and now I've found a great article for anyone interested in the male POV on a closely related topic.

The Divide in the Black Community

I have to admit it.

The past few days have been filled with more grief and sadness over the state of the people I call my own, more than any other time.And it all started when I went to a gossip site to find out more about a mixed high-school basketball player that I wrote about in my Post, "Happy New Year..". From there, my head has been spinning reading the comments of Black women and Black men tear each other to shreds over everything from looks, to dating preferences. I have even read blogs that while promoting the Black female in Interracial relationships, simultaneously puts down virtually every Black man at the same time.

Pesky Battle of the Sexes

I have spoken many a times about the fact that for some reason, guys like to discuss their grievances with the female sex with me. And while I don't quite understand my overall popularity, I am honored by this...and annoyed...jk :-).

One of the biggest issues I have confronted is the idea that all women are bounty hunters, gold diggers, swindlers, pick-pocketers, and in general no good thieves. This is especially true if the girl happens to come from nowhere, is really good looking and ends up with an extremely wealthy guy.

To this I say hogwash.

Happy New YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...Where's the Love?

So it's a New Year and tons of things have changed...and then again nothing has changed.

The SEC is still number one in College Football....but instead of Alabama, Auburn is #1

The Braves made the Playoffs, and lost in the first round...but coming up...no Bobby Cox

The Celtics are great and Shaq is on a playoff contending team....again

And just like clockwork race is still a factor in so many areas of our lives; sports, movies and dating.....as in Black women are still bitter about Black men choosing to date outside their race.

"I don't date Virgins" ...... :-)

The age old wisdom says that if a girl sleeps around, she's a slut, but that if a guy does so, he's an accomplished bachelor.
Newer wisdom has said that a girl who sleeps around is still a slut, but now a guy who does likewise is a manwhore.
So do men really prefer women who are considered sluts over virgins?....If they are a manwhore, yes.

But there are decent men out there who don't act like Britney off of Glee, they simply prefer a woman with experience...is that so bad?

Beauty and the Church

It's crazy, but I've been doing a Bible Study with a friend about Beauty and its merits, and it amazes me at how little this topic is actually talked about in Christian literature, outside the Bible that is. It's like those in the Christian world would rather not look at Beauty as being important in this world, because it cannot be quantified.

Comments and Answers

I am very appreciative to anyone who reads the words that I write on here, and am enamored with those who actually take the time to share their thoughts with me. My last post actually had a response that got me to squirming in such a way that I felt that a one paragraph response would not suffice, so I decided to give it it's due by devoting an entire post to answering the questions asked by Valeriesworld.

Oprah and The 30 Year Old Virgin

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 I really want to throw up my hands at OPRAH, because seriously what she did today really PISSED me off!!!

 In case you missed the episode, it was entitled the 30 year old Virgin and she had two women who fit the mold and a sex therapist on to help them out....point of the show....if you're 30 or older and are a female...you SHOULD be having sex by now....and something is wrong with you for not doing it now.

Trust is a Funny Thing

You know, in my hubris and pride in myself over still maintaining my virginity, I failed to see some major flaws.

First of all, my fear of trusting another human being with my most innermost thoughts and dreams is probably the main reason why I am still the way I am.

Gone But Not Forgotten

I know that it has been a while since I've been on here...and I'd say that I'm sorry, but in reality I just couldn't figure out anything else to talk about.

But then I got a question that almost stopped me in my tracks, how did I end up this way? As in what did my parents do to get me to stay a virgin through high-school let alone college?